As a counselling therapist, I understand that trauma can profoundly influence your life. To support our clients in moving past these challenging core beliefs, we must approach this journey with compassion.
Note: It is important you find a therapist you trust and feel comfortable working with. A good fit is important.
Here are the steps we can take together:
1. Exploring Trauma: Let’s delve into the realm of trauma and explore how it intersects with your beliefs. Your story is unique, and understanding the connections is a crucial first step.
2. Understanding Self-Criticism: It’s essential to gain insight into why those persistent thoughts in your mind tend to magnify feelings of self-contempt. This process can be challenging, but I’m here to help you navigate it.
3. Recognising Biological Elements: We’ll work together to comprehend the specific biological factors that contribute to feelings of inadequacy. Understanding this aspect can be a significant part of your healing journey.
4. Acknowledging Long-lasting Impact: It’s important to recognise the enduring impact of self-criticism on your physical well-being. We will address how this self-criticism affects your breathing, posture, and physical behaviours.
5. Confronting Underestimated Fears: Together, we will confront the often-underestimated fear that directly ties feelings of “never being good enough” to depression. You don’t have to face this fear alone.
Understanding the Psychological Factors
I want you to know that there is no judgment here. When it comes to psychological factors that contribute to mental health challenges, a wide range of experiences can lead to a phase of compromised well-being. This may include experiences like childhood abuse, trauma, or neglect, social isolation or loneliness, and encounters with discrimination and stigma, including racism. You are not alone in your journey.
Empowering Strategies for Coping with Trauma
Thankfully, there are numerous coping techniques and forms of care that can help you manage your trauma with compassion:
1. Seek Support: Reach out to your loved ones. When you feel ready, discuss the traumatic incident with them, sharing your experiences and emotions. Your loved ones can also assist you with daily tasks to ease some of your daily stress.
2. Confront Your Emotions: It’s completely natural to avoid painful feelings, but excessive avoidance can prolong your stress and hinder the healing process. We’ll work on gradually reintegrating into your regular routine, with the support of your loved ones or a mental health professional if needed.
3. Prioritise Self-Care: Together, we will focus on maintaining a balanced diet, engaging in regular physical activity, and ensuring you get a good night’s sleep. We’ll explore additional healthy coping strategies, such as art, music, meditation, relaxation techniques, and spending time in natural surroundings.
4. Practice Patience: Understand that it’s common to have intense reactions to distressing events. Your healing journey will proceed one step at a time, at a pace that suits you.
Recognising Trauma and Its Impact
Trauma is a natural, biological response to situations that are far from normal. It can manifest when you experience or witness deeply disturbing, distressing, or disempowering events. These experiences can include various traumatic events, such as war, sexual violence, accidents, oppression, racism, life-threatening illness, and more.
After experiencing a traumatic event, your body and mind ignite a powerful fear response. This response can persist long-term, causing feelings of terror, hypervigilance, dissociation, or depression, even in the absence of the actual threat. When this happens, you may be experiencing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
Experiences that can be traumatic include, but are not limited to:
· Sexual violence, assault and abuse
· Physical accidents or injuries
· Bushfires and natural disasters
· Frontline emergency and disaster work
· Racism and discrimination
· Lack of empowerment and conditions of injustice
· Life threatening illness
· Surgical operations
· Lack of safety; dangerous living conditions
· Domestic and family violence
· Physical violence and threats
· Psychological violence and threats
· Childhood neglect or abuse
· Evictions or homelessness
· Health pandemics and disease outbreaks
· Loss of one’s job or identity
· Difficult birth
· Loss of a loved one
Benefits of Trauma Counselling
Counsellors and psychologists who specialise in working with trauma are here to support you in gaining control over disempowering memories. Quality trauma counselling equips you with the tools to cope with distressing memories, build resilience, and function better, giving you the best chance to grow from your experiences rather than feeling held back.
Therapy is not a quick fix, but it is a key to recovery and resilience. It can help you make sense of the world in a new and constructive way. Rebuilding after trauma is undoubtedly challenging, but it is possible, and many individuals go on to build enriching futures. You are not alone in this journey, and I’m here to support you every step of the way with compassion and understanding.
If you grew up in a house where you felt physically or emotionally unsafe, you may find you are stuck in a body filled with uncertainty. Fight/Flight
You may mask in particular environments, or you may have become a highly agreeable, people pleaser.
On the flip side you may find yourself escalating very quickly when you feel unheard, perhaps even becoming overwhelmed and angry, going from 0 to 10 in seconds. Being emotionally deregulated often comes from feeling emotionally or physically threatened in some way along your life map.
Note: Your relationships may suffer if you suffer