“FOCUS” is the most important skill you will need to be successful in business & your relationships

Anyone who has worked with me across their business & personal life will know I am big on the power of focus. Where your mind goes your energy flows and most of us have a mind like a butterfly. What do I mean? We allow our minds to take us on sporadic journey of unplanned thoughts every second, minute, hour, daily. Many of us are not good when it comes to focus.

Yet “FOCUS” is the most important skill you will need to be successful in business, in your career, in your relationship and in your family.  Secondly is the power of intention…

Dr. Stephen Covey, a renowned author and leadership expert, emphasises the importance of focus in his work. He believed that focus is crucial for personal and professional effectiveness. Here are a few key insights and quotes from Dr. Covey regarding focus:

The Power of Focus – Dr. Covey believed that focus is the key to achieving results and making progress. He stressed that by directing our attention and efforts toward our highest priorities, we can accomplish more and lead a fulfilling life.

Importance of prioritisation – Covey advocated for identifying and focusing on the most important tasks and goals. He introduced the concept of the “Time Management Matrix,” which categorises activities based on their urgency and importance. According to Covey, focusing on tasks that are both important and not urgent helps prevent crises and allows for proactive, effective action.

Eliminating Distractions – Covey highlighted the need to eliminate or minimise distractions that hinder our ability to focus. He recognised that the modern world is filled with distractions, such as technology, interruptions, and busy schedules. By consciously managing these distractions and creating an environment conducive to focus, we can enhance our productivity and performance.

Clarity of Purpose – Covey emphasised the importance of clarifying our values and purpose. By having a clear sense of what truly matters to us, we can align our focus with our core principles and make decisions that support our long-term goals and aspirations.

Developing Concentration Skills – Covey recognised that focus is a skill that can be developed and improved over time. He encouraged individuals to practice techniques such as meditation, deep work, and single-tasking to enhance their ability to concentrate and maintain focus amidst distractions.

Overall, Dr. Stephen Covey believed that focus is a foundational principle for personal and professional success. By identifying our priorities, eliminating distractions, and aligning our actions with our values, we can harness the power of focus to achieve meaningful results.

Dr. Stephen Covey introduced the Time Management Matrix in his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.” The matrix is a tool that helps individuals prioritise their tasks and activities based on their urgency and importance. It consists of four quadrants:

Quadrant 1: Urgent and Important – This quadrant represents activities that require immediate attention and are also crucial for achieving our goals. They are often associated with crises, deadlines, or pressing issues. Examples include important deadlines, emergencies, or health issues. Covey suggests that we should aim to minimise the time we spend in this quadrant by being proactive and addressing important tasks before they become urgent.

Quadrant 2: Not Urgent but Important – This quadrant focuses on activities that are important but not necessarily urgent. These activities contribute to our long-term goals, personal growth, relationships, and planning. Examples include strategic planning, relationship building, personal development, and preventive maintenance. Covey suggests that we should invest more time in this quadrant to be proactive, prevent crises, and increase our overall effectiveness.

Quadrant 3: Urgent but Not Important – This quadrant contains activities that are urgent but do not align with our long-term goals and priorities. They often involve interruptions, distractions, or other people’s priorities. Examples include unnecessary meetings, some emails, phone calls, or other people’s requests. Covey advises minimising the time spent in this quadrant and delegating or eliminating tasks that do not contribute to our goals.

Quadrant 4: Not Urgent and Not Important – This quadrant represents activities that are neither important nor urgent. These activities are often time-wasting and provide little or no value. Examples include excessive social media use, mindless web browsing, or other forms of distractions. Covey suggests that we should eliminate or minimise the time spent in this quadrant as much as possible.

The key principle behind the Time Management Matrix is to prioritise Quadrant 2 activities (important but not urgent) to prevent crises and increase effectiveness. By investing more time in activities that align with our long-term goals and values, we can become more proactive, reduce stress, and achieve greater success.

Business and Marriage requires different skill sets and mindsets.

Success in business and success in marriages are two distinct areas of life that involve different dynamics and factors. While it’s challenging to make generalised statements, here are a few factors that can contribute to the perception that people succeed more in business than in marriages:

Different Skill Sets and Mindsets – Business success often requires a specific set of skills, such as strategic thinking, decision-making, problem-solving, and goal setting. Many individuals invest time and effort into developing these skills and adopt a success-oriented mindset in their professional endeavours. On the other hand, success in marriages requires different qualities, including effective communication, empathy, compromise, emotional intelligence, and commitment. These skills and mindsets may not be as widely emphasised or actively developed as business-related skills.

Social and Cultural Factors – Society and culture often place a significant emphasis on individual achievement, financial success, and career advancement. As a result, individuals may prioritise their professional pursuits, invest more time and energy in their careers, and receive more recognition for their achievements in business. Marriages, on the other hand, are often viewed as personal relationships, and success in this area is not always as visible or celebrated by society at large.

Complexity and Personal Dynamics – Marriages involve complex interpersonal dynamics, emotional intimacy, and the merging of two individuals with different backgrounds, personalities, and expectations. Nurturing a successful marriage requires ongoing effort, effective communication, conflict resolution, and a commitment to personal growth and relationship development. Business success, although challenging in its own right, may appear more straightforward and goal-oriented by comparison.

Different Metrics of Success – Success in business is often measured in terms of financial performance, market share, career advancements, or recognition. These metrics provide tangible and quantifiable indicators of success. In contrast, success in marriages is subjective and varies from one relationship to another. It may be measured in terms of emotional connection, trust, mutual support, fulfillment, and the ability to navigate challenges together. These aspects can be harder to quantify and evaluate objectively.

It’s important to note that success in both business and marriages requires focus, dedication, effort, and a willingness to learn and grow. While the factors influencing success may differ, it’s possible for individuals to excel in both areas with the right mindset, skills, and commitment to personal and relational development. Additionally, it’s crucial to remember that success in any domain is not solely determined by external measures but also by the individual’s own definition of what constitutes a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Professionally I have succeeded in many area. However, no career aspirations or success will ever give me the feeling of fulfilment I get when I look at the success my husband and I have achieved together as a team. When we look at the family we have created we have created we have nurtured good humans, who are good community members, who are happy, safe, successful women now raising children of their own with our wonderful son in-laws.

Tip: We all get it wrong before we get it right, I am no exception to this rule

Note: We live life forward but we understand it backwards

In closing: I will ask you to be intentional with your thoughts and actions daily.

YOU WILL get what you focus on…

Wisdom is doing & being today what you will be proud of in the future…Who do you need to be for you, your partner and your family?

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