Toxic Relationships… Should I stay, or should I go?

Unveiling the Shadows: Understanding Toxic Relationships, Emotional Abuse, and Financial Exploitation

Introduction:

In the realm of human relationships, the concept of toxicity is a dark cloud that can cast a long and pervasive shadow. Toxic relationships, often characterised by emotional abuse, have a profound impact on the mental and emotional well-being of individuals involved. This article aims to shed light on the dynamics of toxic relationships, the signs of emotional abuse, and the often-overlooked aspect of financial abuse, highlighting the importance of recognising and addressing these issues for a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Defining Toxic Relationships:

A toxic relationship can manifest in various forms, encompassing friendships, family ties, career relationships or romantic partnerships. At its core, a toxic relationship is one that consistently drains an individual’s emotional and financial resources, leaving them feeling depleted and emotionally battered. Such relationships often involve a power imbalance, control issues, manipulation, and, in some cases, financial exploitation.

Recognising Emotional Abuse:

Emotional abuse, a prevalent facet of toxic relationships, is often more subtle than its physical counterpart, making it challenging to identify. Some common signs of emotional abuse include constant criticism, isolation, manipulation, control issues, and verbal aggression.

These behaviours can leave lasting psychological scars, affecting the victim’s mental health and self-esteem.

Adding Financial Abuse to the Equation:

Financial abuse is another insidious aspect of toxic relationships that often goes unnoticed. This form of abuse involves controlling a partner’s financial resources, restricting access to money, or exploiting their financial vulnerabilities. Signs of financial abuse include controlling the household finances, preventing the victim from working, or using money as a tool for manipulation and control.

Impact on Mental Health:

The toll of toxic relationships on mental health is multifaceted, encompassing emotional and financial dimensions. Individuals subjected to emotional and financial abuse may experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and a pervasive sense of worthlessness. Recognising the interconnectedness of emotional and financial well-being is crucial for understanding the full impact of toxic relationships.

Breaking the Cycle:

Recognising and acknowledging the toxicity in a relationship is the first step towards healing. It is crucial to establish boundaries and communicate openly with the abuser, expressing the need for change or, in severe cases, ending the relationship. Seeking professional support, such as therapy or counselling, is essential in addressing both emotional and financial aspects of the abuse. Friends and family can also play a crucial role in providing a support system for those seeking to break free from the clutches of toxic relationships.

 

Types of Toxic Relationships:

To gain a comprehensive understanding of toxic relationships, it’s crucial to recognise that toxicity can permeate various aspects of our lives. Here are some common types of toxic relationships that individuals may encounter:

1.     Romantic Partnerships:

Toxic romantic relationships can involve emotional and/or financial abuse, manipulation, control issues, and power imbalances. Recognising these dynamics is essential for fostering healthier connections.

2.     Marital Relationships:

Husband-wife relationships can be susceptible to toxicity, encompassing emotional, verbal, or financial abuse. Identifying signs early on is crucial for the well-being of both partners.

3.     Parent-Child Relationships:

Toxic dynamics may exist between parents and adult children, involving control, manipulation, or financial exploitation. Establishing healthy boundaries is vital for maintaining a balanced and respectful connection.

4.     Sibling Relationships:

Sibling relationships can turn toxic due to competition, jealousy, or unresolved childhood issues. Acknowledging and addressing these challenges is essential for promoting a supportive environment.

5.     Friendships:

Toxic friendships may involve manipulation, constant criticism, or emotional neglect. Recognising and distancing yourself from such relationships is vital for personal growth and well-being.

6.     Workplace Relationships:

Toxic relationships at work can manifest through power struggles, office politics, or bullying. Creating a positive and supportive work environment requires addressing and resolving these issues.

7.     Extended Family Relationships:

Toxicity may exist in relationships with extended family members, leading to strained family dynamics. Setting boundaries and fostering open communication can contribute to a healthier family unit.

8.     Neighbourly Relationships:

Toxic relationships with neighbours can involve disputes, gossip, or boundary violations. Establishing clear communication and resolving conflicts can contribute to a more harmonious community.

9.     Professional Relationships:

Professional relationships, such as those with mentors or colleagues, can become toxic due to power imbalances or manipulative behaviours. Maintaining professional boundaries is essential for a healthy workplace.

10.  Friendship Circles:

Toxicity within social circles can lead to gossip, betrayal, or competition. Surrounding yourself with positive influences and addressing conflicts constructively is crucial for personal growth.

 

Note: A relationship dynamic can shift and become toxic after an affair, leading to a role reversal where the victim may, in turn, display abusive behaviours. Infidelity can have profound and lasting effects on a relationship, and the aftermath is complex and emotionally charged. Here’s how this transformation may occur:

Betrayal Trauma:

The partner who was cheated on may experience profound betrayal trauma. Feelings of hurt, anger, and insecurity can lead to emotional distress, impacting their ability to communicate and cope with the aftermath of the affair.

Role Reversal:

In some cases, the partner who was initially perceived as the victim may, over time, react to the emotional pain in a way that involves controlling or manipulative behaviours. This can result in a role reversal where the once-perceived victim becomes the aggressor.

Power Imbalance:

The emotional fallout from an affair can create a power imbalance in the relationship. The person who was cheated on may seek ways to regain control or assert dominance, revenge potentially resorting to emotionally abusive behaviours.

Emotional Scarring:

Infidelity can leave deep emotional scars on both partners. The person who was cheated on may struggle with trust issues, leading to attempts to control the other person’s actions or emotions, inadvertently turning into a source of emotional abuse.

5.     Cycle of Hurt:

The hurt partner may, consciously or unconsciously, engage in behaviours that inflict emotional pain on the other person, perpetuating a toxic cycle of hurt and retaliation.

It’s essential to note that this role reversal and toxic behaviour do not justify or excuse the initial act of infidelity. Both partners need to take responsibility for their actions and actively work towards healing and rebuilding trust if they choose to continue the relationship. Infidelity happens for many reasons however both partners if they want to stay together need to get to the root of the problem in their relationship to prevent it from happening again.

Conclusion:

Toxic relationships can take various forms and infiltrate different facets of our lives. Recognising the signs of toxicity, whether emotional or financial, is the first step toward creating environments where individuals can thrive. By fostering open communication, setting boundaries, and seeking support when needed, individuals can break free from the shadows of toxic relationships and embark on a journey towards healthier, more fulfilling connections. It is through awareness, understanding, and a commitment to personal growth that we can build environments where emotional and financial well-being flourishes.

Top 10 reasons couples may experience a decline in their sex life

Navigating discussions about intimacy and sex can be a delicate challenge for many couples. Numerous factors can contribute to couples finding themselves in a situation where intimacy has dwindled, such as trust issues post-affair, exhaustion, boredom, and conflicting parenting styles. Understanding the root cause of this shift is vital for couples seeking to rejuvenate their sex life.

Tip: The “silent treatment” is not uncommon when couples cease to have sex. It is one of the most destructive communication styles in a relationship. Stonewalling solves nothing and is a sign that one or both parties may have difficulty expressing their emotions.

Sex is unquestionably one of the most sensitive topics, and even those comfortable discussing personal matters might hesitate when addressing their sex life. This challenge is amplified for couples who have stopped being intimate. Often uncertain about the reasons behind their diminishing sexual connection, these couples may be reluctant to engage in a conversation about it, driven by the fear of potential revelations or the possibility of being replaced.

Tip: Struggles with self-confidence is more common in long term relationships, particularly when couples are not good at providing positive reinforcement.

To assist those hesitant to initiate this conversation, here is a “Top 10” The most common reasons couples find themselves in a sexual lull. By reviewing this list, you may gain insights into what might be affecting your own relationship. Armed with this awareness, I encourage you to open up a dialogue with your partner because maintaining silence about sexual matters only perpetuates the issue.

Note: Couples counselling provides a safe space for uncomfortable conversations.

Top 10 reasons couples experience a decline in their sex life:

1.     Fear of hearing undesirable truths, such as concerns about attractiveness or suspicions of infidelity.

2.     Transitioning into a business-like partnership, prioritising practical aspects over romance and sexuality.

3.     Exhaustion from the demands of work, parenting, and caregiving, leaving little energy for intimacy.

4.     Negative body image issues that hinder the desire to be vulnerable with a partner.

5.     Discomfort during sex, often associated with aging-related concerns like dryness and pain.

6.     Boredom resulting from a lack of novelty and routine in the sexual relationship.

7.     Lingering trust issues following an affair, impeding the willingness to be intimate.

8.     Poor hygiene and a lack of self-care, self-grooming may affect attraction; this issue makes for a very sensitive discuss.

9.     Unresolved anger between partners hindering emotional and physical intimacy.

10.  Conflicting parenting styles causing stress in the relationship and impacting couple time.

Addressing these underlying issues is crucial for couples to re-establish a fulfilling and meaningful sexual connection. Openly acknowledging and discussing these challenges allows couples to work towards creating a healthier and more satisfying intimate relationship.

Does a lack of sex cause relationship problems?

Psychologically, if two people are in a committed sexual relationship, going for long periods without sex can cause feelings of hurt or rejection and significantly decrease levels of intimacy and connectedness within the relationship, especially if this issue is ignored or not addressed between the partners.

What is a sexless marriage? A couple who has sex LESS than 10 times per years

It is possible to turn things around… DIPAC 5 Steps to a better more connected relationship over 30 days may be a good starting position: Couples Counselling Services Australia | DIPAC

Please remember DIPAC “Individual” sessions Walk and Talk Therapy, it is called “Eco Therapy” Just write “Ecotherapy” in the notes when you book online. If you are time poor and find it hard to get your walk in, this may be for you. Therapy does not need to be in an office or can be, it’s up to you.

For The Love of Money

With my Mediators hat on, I find it quite sad when couples choose to separate over financial incompatibility. Why? Because in most cases they have not had an honest and transparent conversation about money EVER! They have not discussed financial exceptions as a couple and set financial boundaries. I see families break apart because of perceived financial incompatibility and financial immaturity.

With my Couples Counselling hat on I like to work in prevention:

Discover the secrets to a harmonious financial future as a couple in Australia! Did you know that approx. 40% of Australian families cited money as a major source of tension in their households in 2022? It’s no surprise that financial issues can strain relationships even before you say “I do.”

Unlock the path to stronger marital finances and relationships by exploring the common financial challenges faced by married or couples in a long term committed relationship.

Here’s what you need to know:

Key Takeaways:

·        Couples can achieve more together than as individuals.

·        Commitment demands a calm, honest conversation about finances, habits, goals, and anxieties.

·        Money discussions require checking egos, addressing control anxieties, and redefining marital roles and responsibilities.

·        Strategies exist for couples to tackle debt and enhance their financial standing.

·        Communicate expectations and plans about raising and financing children before they arrive.

·        Seek unbiased advice from financial advisors, relationship counsellors for smoother money talks.

1. Failing to Pool Earnings:

·        Splitting bills without discussing long-term goals can lead to resentment and financial instability.

·        “Financial infidelity,” hiding money, can harm the relationship.

·        Plan for setbacks like job loss or career changes before they become urgent. “Contingency plan”

2. Carrying Old Debts:

·        Discuss and understand each other’s existing debts before marriage.

·        Recognise that post-marriage, debts incurred individually are still owed only by the individual.

·        Be aware of community-property states where post-marriage debts are automatically shared.

3. Ignoring Personality Differences:

·        Money personalities vary; openly discuss and address differences.

·        Recognise and moderate bad habits for the sake of the relationship.

4. Staging Power Plays:

·        Avoid power struggles based on income differences or family backgrounds.

·        Remember that both partners are part of a team and future financial united goal are important

5. Supporting a Growing Family:

·        Having children is a financial decision; discuss expectations and plan accordingly.

·        Changes in career dynamics, retirement assumptions, and lifestyle should be addressed.

6. Coping with Extended Family:

·        Manage finances while respecting goals, needs, and expectations related to extended family.

·        Establish policies in advance to navigate family financial crises.

·        You will at some point be dealing with parents passing, their care and their financial care may be in your hands

How to Handle Money Issues in a Marriage:

·        Communicate openly and regularly about preferences, goals, and concerns.

·        Set joint financial goals for the future.

·        Address debts transparently and choose a strategy for paying them off.

·        Consider prenuptial or postnuptial agreements if needed. In the ACT it is termed BFA “Binding Financial Agreement”

·        Understand each other’s financial personalities.

·        Check egos and avoid power plays.

·        Discuss family matters and establish clear policies.

·        Teach children about money and financial responsibility.

The Upside of Getting It Right:

·        Marriage offers financial advantages, doubling income without doubling expenses.

·        Synchronise goals for faster achievement.

·        Remember, even getting it right 99% of the time may involve occasional money-related disagreements.

Starting the Money Talk with a Couples Counsellor can Pay Dividends!

·        Initiate conversations with icebreakers about dreams and financial goals.

·        Joint accounts encourage open and transparent spending habits.

·        Be aware of financial infidelity, which can erode trust in a relationship.

·        Understand many people suffer from “Financial Immaturity.” Wanting live “Solo”

In Australia, couples can build a strong financial foundation by embracing open communication, setting shared goals, and addressing financial challenges together. Regular check-ins and planning sessions can help navigate potential stressors and maintain a healthy financial relationship. Start your journey to financial bliss as a couple today!

Are you sick and tired of Depression, Anxiety and Panic Attacks?

Mental health challenges do not need to be a lifetime condition … 2024 can be the year for healing. Especially if it is affecting your relationships, your career and your QOL -Quality of Life.

For individuals apprehensive about their anxiety levels or their impact on daily life, consulting a mental health professional such as a counsellor, phycologist is strongly recommended.

Personally, I suffered from Anxiety and Panic attacks for years when I was much younger.

I know firsthand how debilitating it can be.

Let’s delve in

Defining Anxiety:

Normal Stress Response: Anxiety emerges as a natural response to stress or peril, often synonymous with the “fight or flight” paradigm. This elicits a cascade of physiological alterations, encompassing heightened heart rate, increased alertness, and the release of stress hormones, orchestrating the body’s preparation to either confront or evade perceived threats.

Emotional Distress: Intrinsic to anxiety are emotional components, manifesting in feelings of fear, apprehension, or dread. This emotional terrain encompasses a general sense of unease or specific concerns regarding prospective events.

Physical Symptoms: The presentation of anxiety frequently manifests in physical symptoms, including but not limited to muscle tension, restlessness, fatigue, sweating, and gastrointestinal discomfort. These manifestations are consequential to the activation of the body’s stress response.

Cognitive Components: Anxiety exerts an influence on cognitive domains, contributing to excessive worry, difficulties in concentration, and the onset of intrusive thoughts concerning potential adverse outcomes.

Variability: Anxiety levels exhibit a wide spectrum among individuals, with perceptions of stress or anxiety-inducing stimuli diverging from person to person.

What Anxiety Is Not:

Occasional Stress: Transient experiences of stress or worry in response to life’s exigencies do not necessarily signify the presence of an anxiety disorder. Significance is attributed when these transient states persist and impede daily functioning.

A Singular Experience: Anxiety is not homogenous, as individuals may manifest its manifestations distinctly, with severity demonstrating considerable variation.

Fear Rationalisation: While fear is often inherent in anxiety, it may not consistently align with the actual threat. Excessive concern regarding improbable or irrational scenarios may signal an underlying anxiety disorder Or Trauma. Being physiologically stuck in a specific event for example.

Simple Nervousness: Pre-event nervousness, such as before a presentation or examination, is a commonplace reaction and does not inherently denote an anxiety disorder. Pathological concern arises when this nervousness endures persistently and becomes overwhelming.

Always Visible: Anxiety does not invariably manifest outwardly, with some individuals undergoing intense anxiety without overt signs or symptoms. Acknowledging internal struggles is crucial, as their validity is equal to externally observable manifestations.

This comprehensive elucidation seeks to refine the understanding of anxiety, enabling the differentiation between normative stress responses and clinical anxiety disorders.

Anxiety is a multifaceted psychological and physiological response to stress, characterised by a sense of apprehension, worry, and uneasiness. It is a normal and adaptive reaction to potential threats or challenges, preparing the body and mind to respond appropriately. However, when anxiety becomes chronic, disproportionate to the situation, or interferes with daily functioning, it may indicate an anxiety disorder.

Sometimes we may need to go right back into your childhood to find the foundational triggers. Creating a new foundation through, CBT -Cognitive behavioral Therapy can be very liberating.

Navigating the Complexities of Long-Term Relationships – From Resilience to Overcoming Infidelity and Differences

In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, the roots of stability can be traced back to infancy, where early interactions with caregivers lay the foundation for one’s ability to form lasting connections. While these early experiences shape patterns of relating to others, they are not destiny. The journey of adult relationships, with its myriad challenges and triumphs, extends far beyond the confines of childhood.

Resilience, a cornerstone of enduring relationships, has become increasingly crucial in the modern landscape. Today, couples navigate a longer path together, facing novel challenges such as the first year of togetherness, the complexities of parenthood, the ebb and flow of aging, and the inevitable tragedies life presents. The ability to weather these storms is not only a testament to the strength of the relationship but also to the individuals’ adaptability.

Delving into the core challenges couples encounter, the turbulence theory reveals that ongoing exposure to experiences like jealousy, goal-blocking, closed communication, and avoidance of difficult topics can erode a connection. Timely identification and open communication about these potential crises become essential in preserving a relationship.

The linchpin of successful couples, according to research, lies in their belief that they can endure challenges. Partners who confidently commit to weathering conflicts and believe in their ability to sustain the connection are more likely to thrive in the long term.

Addressing the delicate issue of infidelity, it is acknowledged that nearly 20 percent of individuals engage in extramarital affairs. However, the aftermath doesn’t always spell the end of a relationship. The key factors determining survival include the fundamental strength of the connection and whether the affair involved emotional attachment. Social networks play a pivotal role in the decision-making process, as the advice and judgment of friends and relatives weigh heavily on the wronged partner, Tip: Seek professional help to be asked the tough questions and for guidance…

Friends can be a trap, if your friends are not happy with their life and they are alone warning! “Mystery can love company” Listen to yourself and what you really want. No one should tell you what to do with your life, not even a professional!

Exploring the dynamics of couples with differences, whether in age, cultural background, or success, reveals that challenges are primarily external. Couples successfully manage significant age differences by embracing the concept of “perceived age” and valuing each other’s strengths. Envy in cases where one partner achieves greater success is mitigated when recognition and support for each other’s strengths become the focal point.

In the intricate dance of relationships, the key lies in resilience, open communication, and a steadfast belief in the enduring power of love. As couples continue to evolve and face challenges, these insights serve as a compass, guiding them through the complexities of modern-day relationships.

Dump New Year’s Resolutions – Make a Contract with Yourself Instead

Interview by Brooke Hunter Business Insider with Darleen Barton

According to Darleen Barton, Australia’s leading ‘relationship whisperer’, life coach, counsellor and mediator and bestselling author, we need to dump New Year’s resolutions and instead make a contract with ourselves. Research shows that New Year’s resolutions are a waste of time and the majority of people do not follow through with their commitments.

Leading business site, Business Insider, states that 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February. Even worse, Forbes states that only 8% of resolutions are achieved.

“Every year millions of people make New Year’s resolutions and most of them fail,” Darleen said today.

“If we are serious about improving our life, making key changes and achieving the things we want to achieve, we need to start taking change seriously.

“2024” should be the best year ever and it can be if people are prepared to get serious. Forget New Year’s resolutions, they are a waste of time. Instead make a contract with yourself. “We only live once, why not get serious about getting the best out of it. We enter into commercial contracts to buy things as basic as phones, internet and Netflix. Why not enter into a commercial contract with ourselves to improve our life. Isn’t our life the most valuable thing we have? Surely it’s more important than Netflix?

“Making a contract with yourself is easy and it involves five key steps:

Work out what you want to achieve in 2024

Identify what you want to achieve and by when and what you need to do or change to achieve this

Speak with significant people in your life to discuss the changes you need to make to achieve your goal/s

Discuss your goals with your inner circle, Counsellor or Coach. They may have suggestions and good ideas to help you. Get their buy in and ask them to assist you with moral support and encouragement

Draw up a contract with yourself to confirm the actions, dates and milestones

Detail in your contact with yourself what you are going to do, when and how. Be specific and make sure the document includes clear milestones

Build in rewards for yourself as you reach milestones and goals

Ensure you reward yourself along the way. Self-encouragement is important and a vital part of growth and development. Keep your inner circle updated on your progress through progress reports. If you are in the position to hire a Counsellor or Coach they can help you stay on track and keep you accountable.

Sign the document in front of your inner circle – get them to witness it

“Signing the contract should be a celebratory affair – you are embarking on a life changing journey. Involve your inner circle in the signing event and have them sign the contract as well. Put your contract in a prominent place in your home/life and provide a copy to your inner circle, Counsellor or Coach.

“Entering into a contract with yourself in this way will give you the structure, motivation and plan to create the life you want to achieve. By involving your inner circle it will provide you with the support you need and the accountability, motivation required to slay your goals. You can even go one step further and build in contract defaults, that ensure you penalise yourself if you don’t make the required progress.

“I strongly encourage everyone to start preparing their ‘self-contract’ now. Work out what you want to achieve and what you need to do to achieve it. Make New Year’s Eve about the signing celebration, where you sign and celebrate your new contract with yourself with those in your inner circle.

“Make 2024 your best year yet. Do something about it. Sign a contract with yourself.”

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Question: Why are New Year’s Resolutions a waste of time?

Darleen Barton: Most New Year’s resolutions are made on the spur of the moment. They are not well thought out and they usually have no purpose attached to them; eg. I am going to give up drinking – WHY? If the reason is because you feel guilty about the amount you’re drinking, you are more likely to stop for a week or two until the next social event. Your original purpose was not a strong enough WHY. Billy Connelly once said, he gave up drinking many years ago before someone told him he had too. It was his contract with himself!

When you value you and respect you, you will come up with a strong enough WHY to withstand temptation.

Setting goals without a plan for execution is a wish… put some work into your plan for execution. Big picture = Small picture.

Set one audacious goal, that goal is so big you need to keep striving to reach it… then set smaller goals. This is what I call “The Peak-to-peak achievement matrix”

eg: an audacious goal maybe travel the world… the smaller goal is to travel to Bali…the milestones maybe your financial commitments along the way eg: save 10% of my salary weekly towards Bali and 5% towards my world trip.

Let’s do some basic numbers…

The plan would be to tweak and hone your lifestyle; milestone could also include eg: 3x lattes per week instead of 3x a day.

3 x $6 latte coffee = $18 per day = annually $6570

Now that’s a WOW factor $6570!

Could you imagine what you could be doing with $6570?

Multiply this over 5 years $32850.00 and we have not factored in compounding interest if you were investing your savings.  

All of a sudden your audacious goal is not so audacious, it is easy to achieve.

By breaking your financial spend down to the ridiculous eg; a cup of coffee… you will become laser focused on what lifestyle holes your money is leaking through.

Each goal comes with milestones; anything worth doing is worth measuring. Milestones are your “yard stick” you know you are heading for success when you are reaching your milestones on your way to reaching your goals. Tip: Small incremental movements forward has sustainable results, there is no escalator to success, YOU must take the stairs.

Setting up a contract with yourself is as easy as a clearly defined plan for the execution of your goals. First you need to understand the word commitment. What is a commitment? Dictionary: Making a commitment involves dedicating yourself to something, like a person or a cause. Before you make a commitment, think carefully. A commitment obligates you to do something. Some commitments are large, like marriage. … You also can speak of commitment as a human quality.

Reward yourself with a sense of satisfaction! Why? is it necessary to reward yourself with things? Well, it’s not… the need for more things is what has gotten us into strife in the past. Start to look at the simple things in life, bring it back to being proud of yourself for achieving. Relish the feeling of beating your personal bests, be grateful for the opportunity to become better.

If your goals involve saving money because you have been a spend thrift, then rewarding yourself with spending money seems counterproductive.

DIPAC stands for Discipline- Innovation- Persistence- Attitude & Courage WHY? Because we all need these attributes in self to be successful…What is success for you? You may need to define what success is for you as it is different for everyone.

When we are striving to be better and do better one of the battles we fight is ‘self-sabotage” and a lack of “Self- Management” this is an inner battle stemming from “self-talk” thoughts and feelings etc… the last thing we need are friends who do not respect your contract with yourself, your commitment. Your inner circle of friends will not be the people who sabotage you. Choose who is on your support team wisely!

Darleen Barton: I set my goals monthly, each month on the 15th I set a new goal. This way I am not running with the pack thinking from the 1st to the 30th of each month. I use to run sales teams in the same way, this way they will not start to slow down coming to the end of each standard 1st to the 30th of each month.

Question: Why do you believe most people have either dumped or forgotten their new year’s resolutions by February?

Darleen Barton: Many people get caught up in the hype and celebration of new years and want to be part of the experience. They make New Year’s resolutions because that’s what everyone else is doing or it seems like a great idea at the time. The problem is that by the time the celebrations have ended, the hangover has subsided and people have returned to their day to day lives, they forget all about the resolutions or lose interest. Changing your life requires commitment and commitment requires action – action which takes you out of your comfort zone and forces you to make sacrifices. Most people lose motivation to achieve their resolutions because they just can’t be bothered.

Question: Why would you create a contract with you in 2024?

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